Rant about dating and paying for stuff!

So it's Homecoming at my school in less than a month and I overheard some girls talking about roping guys into being their date so that they don't have to pay for their tickets.

/DEEP BREATH

Okay, that is the stupidest most manipulative piece of shit I've ever heard. Unless a guy specifically offers to buy your ticket, why would you assume that he should be the one to pay for it? I don't care if it's because, "he's the guy" and you're, "the girl". What is this, the medieval times? Get over yourselves.

Honestly, that kind of stuff pisses me off to no end because girls are always complaining about being treated like trash and wanting equality but still want guys to open their doors, pull out their chairs, buy them stuff, and ask them out and stuff and let me tell you: that is NOT equality. That is sexism.

Guys are humans, too. They don't owe you anything just because they have an extra something in their pants (and I'm not talking just wallet, either). If they do "nice things" out of their own free will, fine. That's their decision. But I'm pretty sure if a guy hounded you to buy stuff for him and do things for him without him explicitly asking, you'd be confused and pissed off too.

If anything, accept his offer to buy the tickets and offer to buy dinner. Or offer to buy dinner and ask him to buy the tickets if it's a financial burden to you. Or just don't go to the dance. There are many civilized options available besides asking a guy to a dance and assuming that equals a free ticket. Why don't you ask a guy to the dance based on his personality and/or the way he treats you and others? Why does it have to be because you'll force him to buy a dance ticket?

What if he's financially disadvantaged? What if he really really likes you but doesn't want to ask you unless he can afford to pay for both tickets? And now you're gonna trap him in an uncomfortable situation. Really, I'd expect some girls to at least have the capacity to consider guys individually versus assuming they're all rich, have a job, or both. Prince Charming is rarer than you'd like to think.

That also brings me to the, "guys always have to pay for the first date" thing. I asked my sister about it and facepalmed through my face when she told me that, "of course the guy would have to pay for the first date if he's going to occupy some of my time".

WHAT. You know, I love my sister...but that is also the dumbest piece of crap I've ever heard. If anything, more of the guy's time is used up on a girl because he has to:

1. Mull over how he's going to ask
2. Make sure he can afford it
3. Set up dates and times when he's available
4. Actually ask the girl out
5. Actually go out on a date with her.

Whereas the girl may or may not use her time like this:

1. Like the guy or don't like the guy
2. Respond to date invitation
3. Go on the date and talk (without paying (according to my sister)).

I mean, come on. I don't mean to sound like that whiny, "I hate girls and I'm not like any other girl", but ladies: SPLIT THE CHECK. The poor guy's probably been through enough already. And what if it turns out you don't like him? Or it doesn't work out? Imagine blowing your money on a date that didn't work out. It must SUCK. So split it for good measure.

Or if he ABSOLUTELY INSISTS on paying for it, show that you care enough about his feelings to offer to buy the next time (this situation implies that the first date went well). This is also similar to paying for dinner on the night of a dance while the guy pays for the dance tickets.

It's not rocket science.